I was reading a book called “It Didn’t Start With You”, and it impressed me how the author searched for healing for years, and finally after having two prominent gurus tell him: “Go home and talk to your parents”, he did. And he learned to receive their love. He’d done lots of healing with his parental relationship, but the last step was to finally receive their love. Even if it wasn’t perfect. He wrote about his body going stiff at first while letting his mom hug him and asking her to keep hugging him until something inside him began to melt. But it took a while – and more than just one hug.
That made me think of my own parents. In an effort to heal and create my own life, I feel almost like I need to push them away and create boundaries to protect myself. But this way feels a lot more loving.
And then I realized: one of the greatest gifts you can give someone is to receive their love. How many people wait a lifetime for their love to be received? And once we die, I think one of the main things we check first is: did I give and receive love in this lifetime?
If a person is a narcissist all their life but they give one moment of love that is received – their life was worth living.
And so much for not feeling worthy to receive love. When we receive love, we’re giving a gift to the world by making people’s lives more valuable for the giving of it.